Refusal as an Act of Protection: Why a Pro Domme Should Not Offer Piss and Facesitting

Dominance is not about fulfilling desires. It is about responsibility.
And sometimes, the greatest responsibility begins with the word "NO."

A professional Domme is not an actress on command. She is not an entertainer of a client's fantasies who mindlessly adopts any scenario. She is the creator of a space where erotic power dynamics unfold according to rules – and those rules have a purpose.

But what if those rules are broken precisely by what seems, at first glance, to be "harmless extremes"?

Piss: A Fluid Fetish with Hidden Content

Piss is often perceived as a naughty game – something that pushes limits, provokes, destabilizes. That's precisely why it has a place in the world of dominance and submission.

But urine is a bodily fluid – and as such, it is never just symbolic.

While urine may be sterile at the point it leaves the kidneys, by the time it passes through the urethra, that changes. In contact with the body, it picks up a microbial load:

• Chlamydia, gonorrhea, mycoplasma

• E. coli, enterococci, antibiotic-resistant bacteria

• Traces of medications, drugs, hormones

• Hepatitis B virus, and in rare cases, HIV

When it comes into contact with mucous membranes – especially in the presence of microtears in the mouth, gum inflammation, or a weakened immune system – this fluid becomes a carrier of real risk. And not only for the client.

In a professional setting, where multiple clients may be seen in a single week, a Domme may unintentionally become a vector of transmission – without even knowing it.

So this isn't about what urine symbolizes.
It's about what it can cause.
And that is no longer a game.
That is medical reality.

Facesitting: A Symbol of Power, A Biological Contact

Facesitting may look, in photos, like the ultimate gesture – sitting above the face, covering the eyes, restricting breath. It's raw, intimate, unsettling. Exactly what dominance is meant to be.

But even dominance has its biological limits.

Genitalia, the anal region, and the mouth – these are areas with dense microbial ecosystems. They are biological portals through which the following can be transmitted:

• HPV (Human Papillomavirus) – associated with oral cancers

• Herpes simplex virus – transmissible even without visible sores

• Fecal bacteria – shigella, giardia, enterobacteria
  (shigella causes severe diarrhea and fever, giardia leads to long-term digestive issues and fatigue, enterobacteria can cause intestinal, urinary, or systemic infections)

• Vaginal infections – yeast, gardnerella
  (oral candidiasis = burning, white coating, disrupted flora; gardnerella → gum inflammation, bad breath, oral microbiome imbalance)

A Pro Domme cannot have absolute knowledge of whether she is experiencing a developing vaginal imbalance, a disrupted microbiome, or whether a client has oral infections or gum disease.

And the mouth – it's not just an erotic zone.
It's a gateway into the bloodstream.

So even though facesitting might appear to be a gesture of control, from a microbiological perspective, it is unprotected contact between two highly vulnerable systems.

The Law: Consent Does Not Equal Immunity

A common argument goes:

"The client agreed to it. It was their choice."

But legally, the situation is quite different.

"Injury or harm to health cannot be legitimized by consent if hygienic or professional care was violated."
(§146 et seq. of the Czech Criminal Code – bodily harm)

In short:

• If an infection is transmitted, the client may seek compensation for damages.

• If it can be proven that the Domme knew about the risk and proceeded anyway, she may face charges for knowingly spreading an infectious disease.

• Ultimately, this can damage her reputation, career, and legal standing.

At that point, what once seemed like "just an erotic service" becomes a legal problem.
With very real consequences.

Not a Weakness, But a Strength

Refusing certain practices is not a sign of lack of professionalism.
Quite the opposite – it's proof that a Pro Domme understands her role on a deeper level.

She doesn't just serve the client's body, but protects their health. She is the guardian of boundaries, even when the client longs to surrender them.

Saying "yes" is easy.
But having the strength to say "NO" – with calm, dignity, and without excessive explanation – is a true expression of power.

In Conclusion: What Lies Beneath the Surface of Desire?

Desire is powerful. It can overlook facts, ignore risks, and romanticize reality.
But true professionalism is not about satisfying every request.
It is about evaluating what can ethically and safely be allowed – without causing harm.

Offering piss or facesitting may seem like an expansion of services.
But in reality, it is an expansion of risk.

So perhaps the real question isn't "How much can the client handle?"
But rather:

"How much am I willing to carry – and still stay true to myself?"

Because being a Domme is not about being available.
I know that.
Being a Domme is about being aware.
And that is where true power lies.